Bouts of anger, anxiety, masking of true emotions and low self-esteem – unfortunately, some parents are able to pass on all these negative qualities to their children. Selfishness and indifference to the feelings of their children have a major impact on them in their childhood. As a result, children begin to criticize themselves, feeling powerless, and their problems in their social lives.
1. You are afraid of manipulation.
Poisonous families often use tampering to control other family members. On a daily basis, this behavior is abnormal and turns into emotional abuse. This may make you feel like you trust others around you and prevent you from having relationships. Feeling of constant manipulation by your family can lead to avoidance behavior.
2. You have difficulties in social interactions and trust others.
When a person grows in a tense atmosphere, around manipulation and other mental abuse, he leaves his mark on that person. Some parents may not be able to provide the necessary support to their children, and in another scenario, someone may live in a family in which they feel they always need to be on the alert. Later on, it will be difficult to get rid of the feeling that you should always be in this condition. Ultimately, you can develop difficulties in trusting and opening up to other people.
Attachment problems are difficult. By constantly seeing and experiencing physical and emotional abuse, maltreatment and neglect, they form their own picture of relationships. These people may not understand what an intimate and healthy relationship looks like between people. They are always waiting for the unconscious of everyone around them to either overreact, be demanding, blame them or let them down.
3. You have a hard time with failure.
Babies raised in a toxic environment may always feel that they are not good enough or worthless. Their parents may have always demanded their excessive demands and blamed them if they did not meet their expectations. Basically, they developed low self-esteem and a lack of self-care. That is why the smallest mistake or failure can frighten them and lead to a tantrum.
4. Your sense of self identity does not exist.
A positive “appreciation” of the family is a critical component for us when we talk about our mental health. It is just as important to feel love and belonging. If the relationship between a child and his or her parents is abusive, the child may begin to face problems with their inner world, their identity, and their self-respect. This leads to negative effects such as anxiety and even depression.
5. criticize yourself a lot.
Low self-esteem, created by high fathers, makes a child feel stupid, unworthy, and not worth getting something better. In anything these children do, they criticize themselves, hesitate, and have second thoughts. They accept that they are worse than others, which makes them suffer mentally, but they cannot change the situation, because they do not receive the necessary mental support.
6. You put your emotions past.
Verbally or physically abusive parents neglect the feelings of their children. In addition, if children try to express their feelings, this may lead to more abuse from the family. As a result, children are used to conceal their pain, resentment and anger. Beyond that in their lives, they may begin to prioritize other people’s emotions above their feelings.
Suppressing emotions also affects the identification of a person. They find it difficult to understand who they are, how they feel, and what they want in their lives. Therefore, they fail to develop themselves in the areas of life that are important to them because, mentally, they always suffer from previous uncertainties and lack of convergence.
7. You always feel like a helpless child.
High parents sometimes refuse to recognize their child as an adult. Regardless of the child’s age, these parents may always try to treat them as a helpless infant. They want control and leadership, and if they encounter any resistance, they will act humiliated to make their children feel guilty.
If the child is not allowed to make his own decisions, invades his privacy, and does not feel that he is an independent person, it may be detrimental to his mental health. They can become anxious, be afraid to start something new, and not be able to integrate into society.